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May 31, 2009Basically 4 years ago my ex left me and two of our children, our youngest was just a baby (6months) at the time so you can under stand me being a wee bit bitter.
To this day she has not paid a penny in child support, She has returned to the UK and with her new partner started a very successful property management company
She fled abroad after running up massive debts in both our names to the extent I was declared Bankcrupt,
Today I received a letter from a debt collecting agency looking for 2,800 hundred pounds.
I could phone them and say sorry I am bankcrupt you cannot touch me and I have no idea where me ex wife is.
Or I could and must be honest this would be out of pure spite n stuff phone them tell them aboutmy bankcrupcy and pass on her contact information, address telephone number business address etc
I know it sounds like revenge and it would be, but I am the one who has to face my 7yr and4 yr old and try and explain things to them
What would you do?.
I have gone through the CSA, They have been useless to the extent that she claimed to be living off benefits and I was going to get 5 pounds a week from her, I then gave them the relevant information re her business (this was in June) Because she has not been honest with them, She is being investigated so far it has taken 6 months and to top it all off I am not even getting the five pounds a week because it is under investigation, I visted her companies website and lo and behold they have a brand new 16,000 pound smart car covered in their business ads
So in essence CSA a total waste of time I am afraid
well both have to pay up. why did you get involved in her debts anyway? couldnt she have had it in her name only? you've got to think of stuff like this. was it her plan? does she not have a care in her bones to even think of her kids? she dint care did she? OMG! b i t c h! does she even love the kids? did she plan this all along? if so, why have kids if she was doing this? the looser. i feel sorry for you and the kids. sad that, i'm sorry to hear. Yup, honesty is the best policy. she dumped you with 2 kids for so many years, it mustve been hard. so its her turn to take on the share but in money!
Horaayy..there are 24 comment(s) for me so far ;)
PASS IT OFF ON HER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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drop her in it after alll she did it to you and you have no reason to defend her
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Pass on the information. She's obviously using your name to rack up bills. It's time that you put an end to this and try to have her extradited back and charged with fraud. You need to start protecting yourself better for the sake of your kids.
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Let the wifey face up to her contribution in the mistake
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Why are you even thinking about it???
You should also report her to the Child support agency.
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well both have to pay up. why did you get involved in her debts anyway? couldnt she have had it in her name only? you've got to think of stuff like this. was it her plan? does she not have a care in her bones to even think of her kids? she dint care did she? OMG! b i t c h! does she even love the kids? did she plan this all along? if so, why have kids if she was doing this? the looser. i feel sorry for you and the kids. sad that, i'm sorry to hear. Yup, honesty is the best policy. she dumped you with 2 kids for so many years, it mustve been hard. so its her turn to take on the share but in money!
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Tell the truth, you sound like a good bloke, so don't risk any more for your ex. It's not spite, you have to look after yourself and the children, hope you have a wonderful new year and that you and the children find happiness and contentment
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You've done your best,your bringing your children up now pass that dept on,you don't need the worry plus yer your bankrupt but it's just another black mark to your name,so pass it on..it's not revenge it's reality.
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dont carry entra loads!!! Tell them the truth! she used you , dumped you and left. you teach her a lesson!!
why clean the shit you havent done??
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I'd send them a letter of my own chalked full of information about her.
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A mother leaves her kids behind,some mother.hey forget the revenge bit,I would call it justice,and yes pass all the details on,and good on you for hanging in there with the kids,not many dads would.
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Wow, sounds like you've had it tough. Good for you in sticking by your children and doing your best for them-when older they sure will realise what youve been through and love you loads for it. As for your ex, hell yes tell them exactly where she is! What a cow!
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do it like she done you what kind of woman leaves six month old baby for another man or woman.
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Dump her in it, report her to child support agency and contact one of the credit check people (eg experian) and make sure that your name and her name are no longer linked together or at the same address. I assume you are divorced and could prove when the relationship broke down? Have no symapthy for this woman. Gosh I'm mean!
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100% give them her details,my heart goes out to you and you honestly much be a very genuine man to even think about asking other people what they think you should do.why the hell should she be sucsessful,happy and have everything while you struggle on with your children.to be honest in actual fact she doesnt have everything,you do,you have the children which are everything!im not a nasty person but in this case revenge would be sweet,she deservses this and much more.i admire you very much.wish you and your children all the best for 2008.if there were more men like you in the world it would be a better place.good luck and please if you do give her details please do not feel bad.
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She ran up the debts, not you. You are simply being a "helpful citizen" and pointing them in the right direction.
Quite frankly, I would sue her for the child support. Even going across the pond to the UK to get your money is not as hard as you would think.
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If its in your name its tough luck mate, go to the CSA though and give them her new details, you should have help with the children.
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i'd refer them to her & it isn't necessarily spite! she hasn't supported her children & left you with so much debt, it's time she faced up to her responsibilities. whatever went on between you 2, she still has a duty of care towards the kids. we criticise men for leaving their families in the mire, so why not women? i'd say, "go for it"! diane.
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It is a difficult one but you have been through a fairly rough time by the sound of it. I just want to ask you one thing do you think that she thought for one moment what saddling you with all the debt would do not only to you but the children.
Basically give them the address and let them wriggle out of that one it is a nasty business but that's the nature of a bad split.
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Hi - Well done for raising your children on your own - it's not an easy thing even without the money problems - so you should be proud of yourself.
Having stood by your children and watched their mother take off on a new life without a backward glance, it is no surprise that you feel the way you do.
Personally I would pass on any info that may help repay the debt, for that purpose only and not out of spite or revenge. We cannot expect to be financially irresponsible without it sooner or later catching up on us, regardless of who we are.
Also I think that by not doing what I see here as the right thing, the bad behaviour is actively encouraged.
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Well, it seems only fair that you tell them where she is. At the end of the day, she should have been responsible enough to face the issues with you and your kids.
Report her!!!!!
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There`s a third party in this story and that`s the people you and your wife owe money to. It`s got nothing to do with your relationship with your ex and spite or lack thereof - she owes these people and it is your moral duty to help them recover as much of it as possible. For all you know, that money could make a real difference to them! Fortunately, your wife is now in a position to make good the debt, and so she should. So do the right thing.
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be honest at all times. if you ex has money why shouldnt she pay? why should you be left with all the stress of dealing with this?
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Nobody would blame you for dropping her in it. You owe her nothing, quite the reverse. You sound like a good man to me, I wish you and your children all the very best for the future. God Bless x
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